We attended Andy and Jessa's wedding (she's my second cousin) this morning. My daughter was chosen to be one of the flower girls, my younger brother was one of the groomsmen, and my parents were the principal sponsors. The ceremony was held at Cuenca Bible Christian Church, my home church - the same church where I was married. This made me remember my own wedding day. This April 28, we will be celebrating our sixth wedding anniversary. Today, I was reminded of the vows I had spoken to my partner for life.
I was reminded of the thrill and excitement of that first day with the man I loved most. Frankly, as the years have passed, these feelings seem to have been neglected.
But I know it didn't fade - I know it was still there. A lot of things have changed since the time we got married until now. The responsibilities of meeting our everyday needs, child-rearing, and work are some factors that make our life more complicated and different compared to when we were still single. Because of these things, I think most couples may seem to take their partners' needs for granted. I plead guilty; it's not an excuse to be too busy with work and career, the children, or the chores at home. Married people who have been together for more than five years face many marital struggles - because we do too!
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The officiating minister shared an illustration during the ceremony this morning that I would love to relate to you. The bride was given a glass of red water and the groom a glass of blue water. They were asked to pour the contents of their glasses into a larger glass container. We all know that red and blue will yield purple, but we need sufficient time to blend them to appreciate the outcome of the new color. This was the pastor's explanation of the symbolism used. We will only discover who a person truly is when we see them inside their home. We can fully understand our partners when we live under one roof. Couples start revealing their true colors after living together, continually discovering each other as the years pass. There are two different colors - two completely different people joined together, so what can we expect? Typically, a contest between the two may arise. Husband and wife will eventually reach points of argument, uncover many differences, and find themselves caught between choices and decisions that make married life challenging. However, couples should be able to resolve any disputes that may emerge at the end of these situations. When individuals learn to blend together, it results in harmonious relationships. Wedding ministers often say, "The two become one. " This expresses the true meaning of being united in one flesh; it is about achieving the perfect harmony of blending our whole being with our partner.
Today, we will work on blending our characters to achieve a more harmonious relationship. I will try to rekindle the feelings I once had for my partner for life. I will love him more unconditionally, practice humility, and submit to his leadership. I'll learn to understand better and grant forgiveness generously. I knew I couldn't do it alone. But with the grace of God, I can accomplish these things.
5 comments:
I agree with you hanny,most of the time we neglect our partners not intentionally but because of the demands of our everyday life most especially the kids who gets most of our attention and energies.Grabe mahirap tlga minsan i balance ung time sometimes I got exhausted tlga,pero thanks tlga sa grace ni God.Thanks for sharing this,God bless you
Hi Tina! Thanks for visiting the blog and for your comment. We as pastor's wives understand each others - Ika nga eh "dama" kita. Our husbands needs us to partner with them. Salamat dahil mabiyaya ang Diyos sa atin kaya talaga nakakapagpatuloy.
Kaya thanks dn kay God dhil may mabubuti tayong asawa na nakakaunawa satin
Happy anniversary to you and to Ptr. Celso! We need to rekindle our love for each other talaga and to keep Christ in the center of our relationship!
thanks so much ate marlene =)
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